Our body has strong physiological responses to whatever emotions we are experiencing. Negative emotions like fear and anger cause negative bodily actions like increased blood pressure. Positive emotions like peace and happiness cause positive bodily responses like increased oxygen flow to the brain! So, if we can control our thinking, we can have those positive physiological responses in our bodies ? instead of negative ones. Not to mention all the other wonderful benefits...

Success in any creative endeavor depends on trust. If your colleagues trust you, they will give in ways they didn?t know were possible. If banks and investors trust you, they will finance your projects. In deep personal work, if a client trusts you, he or she will see and release life-long patterns that have held them bound. Without trust nothing much will move. Many of the people I have coached feel nervous around earning the trust they need from others. We all seem to st...

A prerequisite to steady and lasting love is the ability to forgive others and ourselves for mistakes we make when we are controlled by illusions, programming, fears, desires and impulses. When we cannot let go of what has happened, our present is overshadowed by the past and more specifically the negative or painful emotions and energy fields created by those events. Forgiveness is the process of cutting the cord to the nonexistent past. Without forgiveness, we are not f...

Let us deal first with the issue of when others do not understand me. We may have difficulty loving those who do not understand us because we are controlled by the following beliefs: a. If I were a good person, they would understand me. b. I need others to understand me in order to feel safe, secure and loved. c. I am safe only when others accept and understand me. d. People understand me when they agree with me. Note: There are differences between understanding,...

Effectiveness is the capacity to produce an intended result. When asked, most people say they are not manifesting their full potential. They have more talent than effectiveness. The art of coaching is to see what inhibits effectiveness in each client. I will touch on some of the classic inhibitors I have found and what to do about them. Ineffective people are reluctant to specify their intended result. Once intention is specified, of course, the possibility of failure is m...

Do you know the real meaning of CEO? Did you know that leadership and sales have something in common? There are three essential qualities you must know to harness your personal leadership skills and take them to a new level.

Why is it that no matter what you do to boost morale, from parties and picnics to pats on the back, you end up with the same short-lived results? You know, everyone?s happy for a couple of weeks, then they default to heel dragging and excuse making again? If you?re banging your head against the wall looking for new tactics, the only guarantee is a sore head. Here?s why. Traditional tactics address symptoms, not causes of low morale. Look to mechanics rather than people when s...

?It was great to see her again, but it was totally unexpected. She explained a number of things and said that you would tell me about my financial situation and how best to handle it. And, of course, there?s this great secret you keep mentioning. I?m so tired of hearing about it. Isn?t it about time that you tell me what it is?? I looked from Marla to Gideon and back again. ?We?ll see you at dinner to discuss some of this,? Gideon said. ?Pandayji will be meeting me for...

As he disappeared from view, I said somewhat wistfully, ?I wish I could have gotten to know him better; seems like such an intriguing chap. And to think, he even brought me a gift. So kind of him, Pandayji. I wonder what?s in the box.? ?Remember,? said Pandayji, ?you promised to wait.? ?Until dinner then,? I replied. ?I am so excited about meeting Gideon and Marla, John,? said Pandayji, ?I didn?t know they were here.? ?They travel a lot,? I replied. ?You never kno...

?Good to see you again, Pandayji,? I replied as I seated myself across from him. I was anxious to ask him about his experiences in the meadow, but thought I?d wait a while. Over breakfast, we discussed my schedule for the week and agreed there would be enough free time to visit some interesting sites in the north, if I felt like it.Still not a word from him about last night, so I brought up the subject.Since I wasn?t sure whether the whole event was the result of my overactiv...